The things you thought you knew

I woke up this morning to a text message saying that a good friend of mine who coached basketball for many years in our community had passed away. He wasn't even 60. I've been sitting in disbelief today and have been reflecting upon the things we take for granted.

One of my high school classmates and best friends is sitting in an intensive care unit waiting for a new heart. He almost died Friday night. He's 32

Those things we take for granted, like knowing that a friend is always going to be on the other end of the phone, knowing that when you go home you will see a person, just knowing… But what about when all that changes? What about when those moments become memories?

The power of a moment, a second, a chance encounter. Tonight when you kiss your spouse goodnight and tuck your children in, take an extra moment to take it all in. What if we didn't have these things? Take advantage of every inkling of time. These moments all go into the history books. What moments would be memories in your book?

I've had a lot of losses in my life, especially in the last couple years. Each one strikes you differently, each one feels like a piece of you has been lost. But the reality is that all of the memories, love, voices, smells, laughter, and everything else actually lives on in our hearts. Our hearts feel the loss for a long time and during that time the memories are stored and become a part of who we are. We change with each loss.

I've changed today. My heart is remolding again. The history book has more memories added to it and each one I think of goes into that book. Today the book has become more vibrant; filled with laughter, crazy hair, and Hawaiian shirts. That's the way our books should be…colorful, fun, and filled with good memories.